Raising children is a very complex and unpredictable process. There is no unique textbook in which examples from life would be spelled out, followed by recommendations on how best to act in a given situation. Therefore, each parent brings up as he can and considers it necessary. At the same time, he wants his child to grow up successful, independent and self-confident. Self-confidence and self-confidence are the main components of a child’s success and positive self-esteem. It is these factors that determine how the child will interact with other people, cope with difficulties and strive for success.
Why doesn’t the child believe in himself?
Excessive requirements for the child;
Humiliation from classmates or parents;
Unreasonable and excessive criticism;
Indifferent attitude of parents to the child;
Lack of support;
How can you help your child to become self-confident?
Be mindful of your children’s behavior
If you know that your child is very tired at school, then set aside an hour for him to rest. And then you can demand that he do his homework. Then, with a high probability, he will do it much more efficiently.
Delegate responsibilities to your child correctly
You think your child is capable of cleaning his own room. Then you will first do the cleaning together with him, and in the process, talk about why it is useful to dust off and do wet cleaning. Allow the child to try it for himself, you can praise him in the process. If he successfully copes with this, then after that you can agree that now he will clean his room himself.
Don’t put labels on your child
Remember that it is very important for a child what parents think of him. Therefore, you need to control your utterances. After all, you can just break down, and this will ruin the child’s self-esteem. You shouldn’t say phrases like:
1. “Yes, he is dumb as a Siberian felt boot”
2. “What to take from him”
3. “Yes, he is a coward”
5. “Who are you so narrow-minded about?”
Children take these expressions very seriously and then carry them into adulthood.
Let your child make decisions for themselves
Many parents believe that they know better what their children need, but in reality this is not the case. Parents, when making a decision for a child, first of all take into account their desires, but certainly not the child. Allow your child to make decisions from childhood. For example, what will he wear in kindergarten, who will he invite to the holiday, what film will he go to, how will he correct bad grades, etc.
Forget the comparison
The child should not be compared with other children, especially in a negative context. It also causes the child to feel insecure. He knows without you who can do something better, and who is worse.
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